You can smile through Sunday and still come home heavy. I've been there too, and I made this for you. Watch the video.
You don't have to have it all together to be okay. And you're not as alone in this as it feels.
You know how to answer "How are you?" without really answering it. Fine. Good. Hanging in there. You say it on a Sunday morning, in the grocery line, to the people who love you most. And underneath it, something is heavy. Maybe it has been for a while.
Church can be a hard place to say that out loud. Everyone looks like they're doing well. So you put on a face, you sing along, and you take the weight back home with you, and you're still alone with it.
If that's you right now, I'm glad you're here. You can set the face down for a minute.
What This Is
"Help, I'm Not Okay" is a program about just that. About being able to say you're not okay, and finding your way back to hope without faking it.
It started as five sermons. Then it became a short book, thirteen chapters. Now it's grown into an ongoing membership — because a book you read once wasn't enough. This is a program that shows up for you every week, not just once.
It's not a fix-it plan or a list of steps to get your life back in order. It's room to be honest about where you are, and a way through the hard season with your faith. The kind of thing I'd say to you sitting across a table, not from a stage.
What You Get
The teaching from the book and the sermons it came from, in plain words.
A path through a hard season that doesn't ask you to act like you're fine.
That you're not carrying this on your own, whenever you need to hear it.
Weekly personalized texts from me, a monthly Zoom to reconnect as a group, and a daily podcast — not a one-time read.
About John
I'm John Fowler. I'm a pastor, and I write.
I wrote "Help, I'm Not Okay" because I was tired of watching good people hurt in silence while they acted like everything was fine. And because I've needed it myself.
What Membership Is
A daily episode to ground you before the day gets loud.
Weekly texts that check in on what you said was going on, plus a challenge to put it into practice.
A monthly group Zoom — a chance to put faces to the conversation and reconnect.
I keep track of your struggles, wins, and the themes that keep showing up as you stay in it.
Simple, Honest Pricing
1:1 Life Coaching
A group Zoom to reconnect is part of membership every month — but if you'd like dedicated time just for you, book a private life-coaching call with me directly. I'm a Certified Life Coach, and this time is one-on-one, just for you.
Before You Join
Help, I'm Not Okay is a Christian, Scripture-based life-coaching and personal-growth program. I'm a Certified Life Coach — not a physician, therapist, licensed counselor, psychologist, or psychiatrist. This membership doesn't provide medical treatment, mental-health diagnosis, therapy, psychiatric care, or emergency or crisis intervention.
You're always responsible for your own decisions and well-being. No specific outcome is guaranteed, and if you're facing something beyond the scope of coaching, please reach out to a licensed professional.
The full agreement — and the place you'll sign it — is part of the sign-up form.
In Their Words
These are composite testimonials based on themes and experiences shared through our texts and Zoom meetings. Fictional names are used for privacy.
I joined Help, I'm Not Okay during a season when I felt stuck and overwhelmed. Having someone actually listen and check on me made a bigger difference than I expected. The encouragement has helped me start taking small steps forward again. I finally feel like I don't have to figure everything out by myself.
Help, I'm Not Okay gave me a place where I could be honest about what I was carrying. The Zoom meetings and personal follow-ups made it feel like somebody genuinely cared. I've started looking at my life differently and believing there really is a path forward. For the first time in a while, I'm feeling renewal, hope, and purpose again.
I was carrying hurt, disappointment, and questions I didn't really know how to talk about. Help, I'm Not Okay gave me a safe place to open up without feeling judged. The encouragement, Scripture, and personal check-ins have helped strengthen my faith. I'm learning that healing can happen one day and one step at a time.
Ready When You Are
Read and sign the program agreement, join the membership, and I'll see you Monday.